For the most part, the wedding is all about the bride. The groom just needs to show up, look presentable, and say “I do.” We often forget that it is important for him too, and whether he admits it or not, he has totally envisioned that big day as well. And while he might not have a lot of say in where the drapes should hang or what the programs should look like, he has complete and absolute control over one thing – the groom’s cake.
Time for a history lesson:
Do you know where this tradition started?
It actually began in Victorian England in the 19th century. There were three cakes present at the receptions – a bride’s cake, a groom’s cake, and the wedding cake that was served to the guests. Traditionally, it was a fruit cake (whew thank goodness that has changed, right!?). The tradition stayed put here in the American south where it has gone in and out of fashion in multiple cycles. In the last few years, the groom’s cake has seen a comeback – and it is bigger and better than ever!
Some brides like to surprise their grooms with a cake that represents something important to him. But I think, when it comes down to it, let the groom choose the groom’s cake! It is the one thing that represents his personality entirely on a day that is so important to both bride and groom. Alma maters, hobbies, and favorite foods are pretty typical in this arena (speaking of arenas – check out that LSU cake!). Many couples are opting to serve the groom’s cake at the rehearsal dinner, giving it the whole spotlight for one night so it isn’t fighting for attention at the wedding.
Many might think it is a superfluous and unnecessary expense. What do you think? Axe the idea entirely, or let the groom have one thing that is all his? Would you surprise the groom or would you let him choose what he wants?
Legend has it that after boxing up individual slices for the guests, if an unmarried woman places her piece beneath her pillow she will dream of her future husband!